A new phase of relation after getting into a relation and before getting into the bond of marriage, where two people choose to stay together to know each other better. To understand each others likes and dislikes, habits and lifestyles and with time deciding to move ahead this relation to marriage.
So strange where you dont have exact name, where people find it hard to digest the fact that two person can stay together before marriage. Probably the only difference would be that if you like that person you dont mind he is in any sort of relation, you accept him with all flaws. Perhaps if you dislike that person you end up taunting for even good habits of his. Anyways thats the harsh fact of life cant really change the perception of any individual.
With more relation getting broken so quickly it is somewhere needed to spent time with each other before getting into the bond of marriage, not that one has to get into living relation, but somewhere its true that for once you can fool a person by meeting for an hour or two but not when you actually stay together. This is why our family knows about us the most, your minute habits- probably its your snoring or your lazy habits with regards to cleaning, your extra time during your royal shower or may be nature's call with never forgetting smell that can burn ones noes hair.
Once you stay with a person you surely get to know the harsh truth of a person, may be for months things go smoothly and you still live in the fairy land, but when you have to manage every little duty -right from the rent bill to the phone bills, maid bills to electricity bill, your shopping habits would then convert to grocery time, where all the time your eyes would search is anything that you might need at home. Easy to Cook meals are you best friend especially two minutes Maggie noodles and its category, cause though you are staying together like husband and wife but the major difference is that neither of you are bound to take all the responsibility. Both can prepare food or wash clothes or utensils, its just not the girl who takes all those chores headache.
Perhaps with time you actually realize one thing, though your house is the best house of all your other friends group as you end to be in middle of bachelors and married couples, for you have your fridge full of alcohols, your house lightnings are just like a lounge , with loud music players and all that one need to rock the house party. But you would always have a mixed group of married couples being very sober in front of their partners or bachelors wishing for match fixing. Their best topic in every meet is when are you marrying and eager to self invite for all the undecided marriage party.
When you are introduced to new person, you are more than a boyfriend or a girlfriend. You actually get to hear new names and the best common accepted name in the society is 'FIANCE' for Christ sake, just cause people dont understand this living relation concept so get yourself tied up without any celebration. Some of the relations these days are just for short span and both are alright with the fact, they also have not much issues with double dating in future. Then why ruin the value of such bonded relation, confusing at times.
When anyone's parents calls or come for short visit or stay, their only concern in every conversation would be society and their drama of how its difficult to answer people of this nameless relation and when can we shut their mouth. They are ok if you agree for atleast engagement and waiting for another year or two, but this living relation concept is hard to digest fact. But its alright we really cannot explain our elders at times of every decision of ours. Sometimes its better to keep our mouth shut and remain silent for future.
One another strange fact, irrespective everyones aware that when the individual is one of the untidiest person ever met, but when you are in living relation the house must be neat and tidy like that of our married house, and the lady is answerable and blamed for the neatness level of room. Strange isnt it, why is it necessary for a lady to make sure the house is neat or not. Isnt it both responsible for handling the house? You name the poor lady without knowing the truth, however you try its always both whose responsible for the good and bad.
But somewhere the old sayings, when you get habit of something its difficult to get out of the habit. If this relation turns fruitful and gets into marriage- it either turns into smooth relation for life as you already been with the person earlier and know about him. Perhaps if you end the relation to get out of the habits and the used-to feel, very difficult and hard to digest. You get attached to even an animal and its hard to get out of the attachment so cant explain how hard it can be from a person you have been staying with.
And the worst part is you dont have a name for the relation and you cant really explain people of how its more difficult, for once you can move out of a boyfriend girlfriend relation but living is even harder for your used to habit almost kills you from within. For your daily routines is so used to him that it takes more time and more pain than other times. On top people see you in different way for they know about your living relation and they either wants to give sympathy on you or wants you to give them chance to allow them in your life.
One confusing relation with its pros and cons, nothing to name or expect much perhaps its on individual to individual of what he wants from life and a relation. With the bond one gets its own strength to handle the harsh taunts from society and wont regret or repent on itself for its own decision.
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