"Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.” – Oprah
Its easy to comment but sometimes its hard to move out of our past, especially that have shook our faith and our perspective. But like the above quote our past is not in our control of us and keeping on thinking about all of them would give us nothing but pain and sorrow. Really why don't we get strong enough to control us from doing that's harmful for us. Why do we still keep removing all old hurts and make it fresh.
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
Our whole life would just pass by like a sand in our palm, the more we try to hold it the sooner would it go away from us. And it cannot be caught back once gone, its like the spilled milk that no one can gather back.
"When you don’t get what you want, you suffer. If you get it, you suffer too since you can’t hold on to it forever."
Either ways you are unhappy, the main question that arises is that why to worry then? If one fine day either you get or not, and if you get you gonna lose then lets keep enjoying and concentrating on the days its with us.
"You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever."
There is a saying that goes “The only constant thing in life is change.” Most people believe this to be true. As we go on with our lives, the people we meet, the things we see, and the emotions we feel never remain the same. Somehow, people you meet today would not be the same tomorrow because of the mere fact that they grew a day older; the things we see can always be blown away by the wind or can be taken away in just a blink of an eye. Even our emotions are as unpredictable. The exact feeling you have today cannot be felt the same way ever again. In this confusing world, nothing is permanent but change.
As everything comes and goes, there is one thing that does not alter – the past. As defined in the dictionary, it is something that is finished, completed, and no longer in existence. Something like words uttered, opportunities that were ignored and events that have long since happened. These are the things we can never take back, things we can never have again at the exact same situations they were in. We can never go back and be in the same place at the same time, we can never go back in time to erase the things we have done, or shield ourselves from the hurt we have endured. We already know that wishing we could change the past is futile but people as we are; we still regret and we still hope to have the chance to do it all over again. Why is that?
There are times when we just can’t seem to let go. Let’s talk about matters of the heart for example; everyone who has experienced falling in love is sure to have experienced pain and hurt as well. By unknown circumstances, promises which had high hopes of coming true ended up empty, and forever turned out to be a year, a month, or even just a week; leaving your heart shattered and seemingly impossible to mend. When these things happen, people almost always choose to live in misery and solitude. Initially, this is but a coping mechanism we have as humans to decrease the pain, but in allowing the darkness to swallow us whole, we are bound to have it with us for the rest of our lives. It is time we realized that learning from the past and living with it are two different things.
So you have been hurt, you have been left alone in this ominous world, you went from being so happy to being so miserable and sad. There are only two choices you have to choose from: it’s either you learn from it, or live with it for the rest of your life.
Learning from the past takes a lot of strength and courage for we would have to accept the fact that somewhere along the way we took wrong turns and made mistakes. It is also the most difficult path to follow. It comes with the realization that life would not always be a smooth road we can travel on, it always has twists and turns that can trick and confuse us. On the other hand, living with the past is simpler. You only have to keep the painful memories and be hurt every time you close and open your eyes.
There’s nothing much to do but rekindle the pain every day and refuse to learn the lesson that comes with it. Would you take the hard path and be strong enough to let go? Or would you succumb to the darkness of pain and guilt?
Only you can make the better choice for yourself. No one can dictate what you should do about yesterday, only you can teach yourself to live today with or without it. Things in the past can only affect your present if you let it do so; it can haunt you any time of the day, it can be with you wherever you go, and it can never be erased. It can, but it may not if you don’t allow it to.
It is not an easy task to get over the past and live for the present, but it will be worth every bit of it in the end. Nothing is harder than letting go of regrets and what if’s, nothing is more painful than accepting the reality that you got hurt without even a warning, and nothing is more difficult than realizing that you are capable of making your own mistakes in life. But only by letting go, accepting, and realizing that these things happen to define who we are and who we ought to be, can we leave yesterday behind where it belongs and live in the present.
So ask yourself, would you rather live in the past or leave it for the present?
As everything comes and goes, there is one thing that does not alter – the past. As defined in the dictionary, it is something that is finished, completed, and no longer in existence. Something like words uttered, opportunities that were ignored and events that have long since happened. These are the things we can never take back, things we can never have again at the exact same situations they were in. We can never go back and be in the same place at the same time, we can never go back in time to erase the things we have done, or shield ourselves from the hurt we have endured. We already know that wishing we could change the past is futile but people as we are; we still regret and we still hope to have the chance to do it all over again. Why is that?
There are times when we just can’t seem to let go. Let’s talk about matters of the heart for example; everyone who has experienced falling in love is sure to have experienced pain and hurt as well. By unknown circumstances, promises which had high hopes of coming true ended up empty, and forever turned out to be a year, a month, or even just a week; leaving your heart shattered and seemingly impossible to mend. When these things happen, people almost always choose to live in misery and solitude. Initially, this is but a coping mechanism we have as humans to decrease the pain, but in allowing the darkness to swallow us whole, we are bound to have it with us for the rest of our lives. It is time we realized that learning from the past and living with it are two different things.
So you have been hurt, you have been left alone in this ominous world, you went from being so happy to being so miserable and sad. There are only two choices you have to choose from: it’s either you learn from it, or live with it for the rest of your life.
Learning from the past takes a lot of strength and courage for we would have to accept the fact that somewhere along the way we took wrong turns and made mistakes. It is also the most difficult path to follow. It comes with the realization that life would not always be a smooth road we can travel on, it always has twists and turns that can trick and confuse us. On the other hand, living with the past is simpler. You only have to keep the painful memories and be hurt every time you close and open your eyes.
There’s nothing much to do but rekindle the pain every day and refuse to learn the lesson that comes with it. Would you take the hard path and be strong enough to let go? Or would you succumb to the darkness of pain and guilt?
Only you can make the better choice for yourself. No one can dictate what you should do about yesterday, only you can teach yourself to live today with or without it. Things in the past can only affect your present if you let it do so; it can haunt you any time of the day, it can be with you wherever you go, and it can never be erased. It can, but it may not if you don’t allow it to.
It is not an easy task to get over the past and live for the present, but it will be worth every bit of it in the end. Nothing is harder than letting go of regrets and what if’s, nothing is more painful than accepting the reality that you got hurt without even a warning, and nothing is more difficult than realizing that you are capable of making your own mistakes in life. But only by letting go, accepting, and realizing that these things happen to define who we are and who we ought to be, can we leave yesterday behind where it belongs and live in the present.
So ask yourself, would you rather live in the past or leave it for the present?
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